I’ve come to a point where I can acknowledge that forgiveness is needed. And it may be more for me than for anyone else, because it is the only positive way to move on and past it.
Forgiving the past allows for closure. It allows me to let go of the hurt and anger that will have no place in my future. And it makes for a present of effective rebuilding. Besides, lingering and labouring just accomplishes nothing healthy.
So forget enough to let go, but remember enough to learn. And just forgive. Forgive it all, even yourself, then just move on and live. Hatred is wasted energy.