I had to write this. Like “if I don’t I’ll explode” had to write this. Because it is so disheartening and frustrating to me that a young man can admit that he assaulted a young woman and the judge punishes him with only 6 months in prison. He faced up to 14 years imprisonment for his crime, but the judge thought that being incarcerated for a longer period would have severe ramifications on this young man’s life. His father too showed concerns that his son has faced serious depression for his actions and shouldn’t go to jail at all. Instead, he asked that his son be allowed to counsel other young people about the dangers of drinking and sexual promiscuity.
I read all of that crap and I had to ask, what about her? What about the young woman who was found unconscious in an alley behind a dumpster with this idiot over her? What about she who woke up in emergency medical care not knowing what had happened to her?
WHAT ABOUT HER?
Has society become so devolved that we forget to care about the actual victims? They said she can’t accuse him of raping her because she doesn’t remember what happened. He went from saying he didn’t know her to saying she told him yes. And because, good Lord, because he has no priors, his father thinks 6 months is too harsh of a sentence for his son.
When will we stop condoning these atrocities?
It’s not even a gender issue to me. My issue is her being drunk, her lack of memory, even if she had said yes! gives him no right to treat her the way he did. None. But we live in a time now, that if you dress too provocatively, if you over consume alcohol, if you’re even flirtatious then whatever happens to you happens. You were asking for it. And pieces of scum like this guy and his father, and his lawyer and the judge will offer every justification possible for it. A child that does wrong is still your child, but it doesn’t make his action right. Writing a letter informing the public of your son’s once happy go lucky nature and his love of cooking does nothing to dissuade me of his guilt. I frankly don’t care that he’s been depressed ever since the incident. He caused the beeping incident. What you call depression is the fact that his rusty, moldy old conscience that he found somewhere in the annals of his ass is now working overtime.
I don’t know, I don’t understand how anyone can condone this young man’s actions. And furthermore every justification you offer him, just prevents him from ever truly accepting the magnitude of what he did wrong. That young woman is scarred for life. And worse still, society pushes a measure of blame onto her shoulders for what happened to her. She is responsible for her actions. But so too, he is responsible for his.
I’ve lost count of the times I helped friends home that had too much to drink; I’ve been helped home after having too much to drink. But guess what, even if you didn’t make it home, still you should have woken up wherever, with your underwear intact. Still you should not become a victim. It shouldn’t happen. And whether or not you have ever been raped, we all become victims of it, we all become perpetrators of it when we do nothing. It could have been me. It could have been my sister, my niece, my cousin, my friend. It could have been you. Because although the majority of sexual assault cases are against women, they also happen to men.
I believe that we have a duty to each other, a duty even to ourselves to not see evil and just let it be. The criminals aren’t just the ones who do the crime, but those too who do nothing to stop it.
“He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it,”
said Martin Luther King, Jr.
“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing,”
said Edmund Burke.
When do we stop doing nothing? Where is our conscience? Where is the justice?
“Sometimes I think, if I hadn’t gone, then this never would’ve happened. But then I realized, it would have happened, just to somebody else.”
The father says that his son loves cooking and is quite respectful. I would like to know then why his fingers were in the vagina of an unconscious female lying on the ground. There is no mention of an interest in gyneacology but still it doesn’t seem like something anyone respectful would do.
How do you feel about the matter?